Amanda Cade

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Grandparents 2

Let me preface this by saying that I could not have been blessed with better parents. They always have been, and continue to be, loving, honest, supportive people who are my very best role models. I had a wonderful childhood, and would have to struggle to find anything to criticize about the way they raised us. I should also mention that since they’re retired now, they have a lot more free time.

Disclaimers aside, now it’s time to poke fun at them. You see, almost ten years ago my parents became grandparents, and now they say and do things that occasionally make me suspect that maybe, just maybe, these aren’t the same people I grew up with.

Here are some examples:

“I have everyone’s favorite.”

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Dessert was never a common thing in my parents’ house. It was for special occasions, and if it was your special occasion, then you got your favorite, naturally. However, there was one dessert, and that’s what you ate, and you were thankful to have it. Granted, our family is larger now, so we probably need two (or one jumbo size), but we never need four desserts.

Four. At every family dinner. Because we need to make sure everyone has something they love. I mean, that’s also good for me (hooray for chocolate), but this is certainly a change from the parents I used to know. Speaking of dessert…

“A little extra sugar won’t hurt.”

If there’s four options, and one of the girls wants all four, what’s the harm? There’s nothing wrong with one more cookie. Let’s have donuts on Christmas morning. Or just because it’s Saturday.

Keep in mind, these are the same people who restricted our weekly soft drink intake. Suspicious behavior indeed.

“Let’s go to a movie/amusement park/concert/zoo…”

Don’t get me wrong, my parents were big on spending time with us. We had dinner together every night, played games, had constant conversations, went out to eat once a week…Mom and Dad always had room for family time.

Going out for activities, however, was neither constant nor spur of the moment. These kinds of things were planned, scheduled, budgeted, and long anticipated. I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times my parents planned an outing with less than 72 hours notice (and 72 hours was a pretty short timeframe).

My nieces’ grandparents, however, do this all the time. Forget schedules and planning-let’s go to the Magic House! The people who taught me the importance of scheduling (and introduced me to the joys of to do lists and calendars) are suddenly whimsical and capricious. My Spider-Sense is tingling.

“I saw this and just had to buy it for you.”

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You know what else my parents taught us to do? Save! Budget! They took care of everything we needed, and were generous to a point, but only to a point. Beyond that, if it wasn’t Christmas or your birthday, then you knew how to get the things you wanted: use your own money. For larger purchases, they would pay half if we saved the other half (which I totally support, because it really helped us learn about priorities and responsibility), but other than that we had our allowances, and then we had jobs, and that was that.

So who are these people who are randomly buying presents all the time? On a related note…

“Here, have some money.”

There have been no chores, and it is not a special occasion, but I have some cash so I’m just going to give it to you?! *What is happening?!*

“Don’t worry if you’re late.”

Once upon a time, in the not so distant past, my father would have insisted that tardiness was the eighth Deadly Sin.

These days, as long as the grandkids arrive at some point, it doesn’t matter if the rest of the family has spent twenty minutes watching dinner get cold. And don’t think my sister doesn’t take full advantage of this.

“Be sure to let the kids win.”

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You know what else my father used to be? Competitive. Super competitive. He refused to let us win at Candyland. He formed coalitions in Monopoly, and then ruthlessly turned on his former partners. He stayed up late trying to learn to beat us at video games. He could handle losing, but only after fighting to the death.

So it probably won’t surprise you to hear that his daughters grew up to be much the same. Now, however, we all have to lose. All the time. No exceptions.

“Go ahead and eat that in the car. It’s ok if you spill.”

I can’t even talk about this one.

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How widespread is the pod people invasion? Anyone in your life acting suspicious? Let’s compare notes!

21 thoughts on “Worth Mentioning: My Parents Might Be Pod People

  1. What a great post Amanda. A delightful read! You go girl, looks like you’re still meeting your word count! I love the drop the mike too. 😀

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thanks! I’ve spent a lot of time with my family over the past few weeks, so this post practically wrote itself.
      I like the mike drop, too. I’m totally in love with Bitmoji-so far I’ve found the perfect image for every post. 🙂

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      1. Yes you have! 😀

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  2. Alphe says:

    I feel like this is a very common transition. There’s a common belief that parents are supposed to bring up their kids, while grandparents can shamelessly spoil them. However silly, annoying of unfair it looks from your perspective, it happens in many families. It may also be related to age – there’s an almost 10-year difference between me and my sister, and I clearly see that she’s allowed to do A LOT more than I was when I was her age. Maybe, as people get older, they feel like the time when they were supposed to act as role models is gone and they don’t have to be that strict any more?

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      This post is really a collection of things I tease my parents about. They’re amazing grandparents, just like they’re awesome parents.
      What you shared about your sister is interesting. Do you think some of that might be related to her being a second child, too? I’ve found that many parents are a little different with second and third kids, because they have more parental experience.

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      1. Alphe says:

        Hmmm… I’m not sure, I think my parents would say that I was a much easier child to bring up, calm and prioritizing school (which is often what parents want to see). My sister, on the other hand, is far more demanding, with priorities nowhere near where our parents would probably like them to be. I don’t think that’s the kind of experience I provided to them, so there’s no parental experience for them to use now, at least in those aspects. To me, it just looks like our parents, being those 10 years older now, simply have more of that ‘whatever’ kind of attitude. Plus, they had more strength those 10 years ago, and maybe with me being their first child they had a sense of a mission to be the best possible role models and impose stricter rules in order to make me the best possible version too.

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  3. Michelle says:

    This made me laugh because my parents turned into different people when they became grandparents, too! It’s so odd!

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      I tease them about it all the time.

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  4. Oh my goodness. This could have been written by my daughter. She recently told me that she needs three days to retrain her children after they visit us. Ha ha ha. But it is so darn fun being grandparents. If you’re lucky, someday you’ll turn into a pod person too.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      I don’t have kids, but I get to be “the cool aunt”, which is somewhere between parents and pod people. Lol.

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  5. I love your keen sense of humor. It’s a good thing we are not living in the sixties it would have needed to be investigated. LOL

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      I am closely monitoring the situation, just in case. Lol.

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  6. Great Post it was fun to read! 100% ThnQ for sharing! Have a wonder weekend! Hugz, Miss B.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thank you for reading! I hope your weekend is awesome. 🙂

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  7. Shell Vera says:

    I find myself being more strict with my youngest than my oldest. But it is funny watching my parents with my girls because I have similar thoughts remembering some of my childhood when I was with them and the rules were very different.

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  8. pjlazos says:

    Oh my gosh, this is sooooo true!! Great post!

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  9. kagould17 says:

    Ha Ha. Too funny. I guess there is hope for all of us that we can change with circumstances. Now, about those 4 desserts. Allan

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      I must admit that the dessert variety is definitely a plus. Lol.

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  10. All I can say is “It’s great to be a grandparent!” Hahaha We have 3 grandchildren. 🥰

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