Amanda Cade

Worth It! (Things to try, read, watch, hear, and discuss)

It’s about a week into the St. Louis lockdown, and I’m doing fine. I still have my job, and working from home, so far, has actually been less stressful than being at work was for the last few weeks. I’m set for food and supplies, and have been able to restock a few items when I needed them. I’m not sick, and neither are any of my family or friends. Only one person in my circle has been laid off, and at the moment she’s ok financially.

In other words, I’m very lucky and blessed during this crisis. Because I’m focusing on that, I’ve also been staying calm. I hope that all of you are also safe, stable, healthy, and at peace. If you are, it’s possible that you’ve also given some thought to how you can help and support people who aren’t in as great of a position. Here are a couple of things I’ve been doing:

Donations

computer-buy-money-banknotes-163056My parents live close to one of the largest food pantries in the metro area. When they got the word that demand was increasing while supplies decreased, we all made online donations, and spread the news to others in our social circles. Wherever you live, there’s a very good chance that there’s a local organization that could use help meeting the needs of your community.

After donating to the pantry, I sat down and calculated all the money I’m not spending because I’m at home for 30 days (gas, Starbucks, lunch at work, social activities, etc.) and then gave it away. I chose two organizations:

  • No Kid Hungry, which is taking action to make sure that students have access to good meals while their schools are closed.
  • Donor’s Choose, an organization I have supported for a long time, which helps teachers of low income students obtain classroom supplies and materials. Right now, they’re working to get necessary learning materials directly into the hands of students at home.

If your financial position is solid right now, I’d encourage you to investigate ways you can help.

Communication

A lot of people in my life are scared and stressed right now. One of my friends is in an essential industry, so he’s going to work every day and has concerns about his health. I have an aunt who is undergoing radiation therapy, and new regulations mean that she has to go to her treatments by herself. A lot of my friends are having trouble working from home while their kids are there. My sister Audrey is having some difficulty coping with worries about the future and how the world is changing.

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So right now, I’m doing a lot of listening. In phone calls, text conversations, and video chats, I’ve been giving the people I love the opportunity to voice their fears and frustrations, and offering advice when appropriate. I’ve been reaching out to people I haven’t talked to in a while, checking to see how they’re doing and catching up on life events. Staying in touch is important for staying emotionally healthy, regardless of how well you’re coping on your own.

how ya feeling

How are you doing right now? What kind of support are you giving or receiving?

26 thoughts on “Distance Caring

  1. Sheree says:

    Crisis often bring out the best in people. You’re obviously one of those people. We’re in a similar situation and doing similar things to assist where we can.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thank you for the compliment. Most of the credit goes to my parents, who have always taught, and lived, the values of generosity, support, and caring.

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      1. Sheree says:

        And you’re a credit to them Amanda

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  2. W.S.Thompson says:

    The greatest gift you can give to life is to look past yourself. Because of the world’s current circumstances, too many are hoarding all they have for themselves. It’s good to know there are a few thinking of others outside of themselves. Thank you for sharing, such an essential message to give.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      While so many people are unable to work, I’ve really been aware of how lucky I am to be in a stable financial position. I think giving is an act of gratitude in any circumstances, but especially now.

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  3. kagould17 says:

    Hi Amanda. Glad you are able to work from home and love your helping message. We are talking, texting and Skyping with our friends and family all round the world. Some days, it seems overwhelming and I think many of us would like to talk about anything but COVID, but, it is important that we talk and listen, especially with those who are alone. At long last, social media is becoming truly helpful as we all go through this together. Stay well. If everyone does their part, we will soon be through this. Allan

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      I was thinking the other day about how much harder this would have been twenty years ago, when there were so many fewer communication and remote working options. It’s great that we have so many ways to stay connected.

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  4. Also lucky enough to have my job. The UK government is paying 80% of any wages (up to £2,500) of a worker who has been furloughed. So I’m currently enjoying a paid lockdown.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Hope you’re avoiding cabin fever.

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      1. I haven’t been bored yet. Plenty of hobbies.

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  5. It’s great that you are doing so much for everyone. I think the listening and counselling is just as important as donations.
    That is the best we can do in this crisis, remain cheerful and positive while helping others.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      There are so many challenges people are facing right now, including decreased personal contact.

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  6. Solid advice, as always. Thanks for all you are doing!

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thanks, Dan. I hope all is well with you.

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      1. Likewise, Amanda. We are all well.

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  7. Hey 🙂
    I donated to the food bank a.few weeks back, so lovely that you are thinking of other too. Hopefully others will make some kind gestures too.
    Luckily my other have and I are too fine for work and jobs are secure as far as we know.
    Just taking it day by day and staying positive xxxx

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      I’m so glad you’re in good shape during all this.

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      1. The disappearing cake in the kitchen is saying otherwise :/ hope you’re keeping well

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  8. Dawn Hensley says:

    This is such good advice. With so much chaos going on in our own lives, sometimes it’s hard to remember we’re not alone. Our friends, family and others are also dealing with this situation in the best way they know how. It’s good to check on them and let them know, we’re still here.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Yesterday, a coworker texted me and said, “I wanted to check in because I know you live alone, and that can make this situation more difficult”. It meant so much that she was thinking of me.

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  9. alexraphael says:

    You’re very special and I’m glad there are so many others like you around

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  10. inhiscare753 says:

    Thanks for caring and sharing. It’s is so vital during this time to lend an ear and be a help to others. You can hear the smiles when making those phones calls. Wonderful post!

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thank you so much. I hope that everyone has love and support during this difficult time.

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      1. inhiscare753 says:

        Yes, Indeed. You are certainly welcome!

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  11. Kanjika says:

    Hi Amanda glad to know you’re able to work from home and I really appreciate all the helpful messages. Loved your blog and would be glad if you could review mine and let me know your thoughts. Stay safe and positive!

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