Amanda Cade

Worth It! (Things to try, read, watch, hear, and discuss)

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I had a busy, somewhat stressful week. When that happens, I really become attuned to the kindness of others, because little things mean a lot more when I’m trying to keep my attitude in the positive zone. I also make a concentrated effort to spread kindness when I’m feeling stressed, because that usually helps me snap out of a bad mood. And since we’re in the holiday season, 12 feels like the right number of my favorite acts of kindness to share.

So if you’d like to try spreading some cheer, you can…

1. Buy someone a beverage

Inexpensive and super simple. Taking a trip to the vending machine? Grab an extra and give it away. Stopping at Starbucks on the way to work or class? Text a friend and see if you can get them something. I also like to occasionally pay for the car behind me in the drive thru, because everyone can use an unexpected kindness.

2. Give sincere compliments

Costs nothing, only takes a few seconds, and can make a big difference. When there’s a reason to recognize someone, do it.

3. Write a positive note

At work, I like to sneak Post Its on people’s desks with messages like, “You make working here awesome” or “Thanks for helping me out this morning”. I also keep a box of cards (Thank you, Congratulations, Good luck, etc.) on hand, so I’m always ready to celebrate or offer encouragement.

3. Bring food (with some extra thought)

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Giving someone a treat is always a win, and this time of year most of us are surrounded by goodies. At my job and in my circle, we’re really big on treat days and teaming up for meals (I talked a little about that in my holiday gathering post two weeks ago). And if you want to level up…

Bring a healthier option. A few years ago I noticed that I always saw people who never ate any of the cookies and whatnot because they were dieting, diabetic, had food allergies, etc. So I started looking for recipes (and bakeries, when I needed to save time) that could provide some treats that were healthier, but still yummy. It takes a little extra effort, but I love being able to bring something for everyone.

4. Give someone a break

Offer to babysit, run a few errands, help with a cleaning project, etc. This is really powerful, because not only are you making someone’s life a little easier, but you’re showing that you care about them.

5. Take time to listen

Yes, we’re all busy, but find the time to connect with others, and find out what’s going on in their lives. The gift of a friendly ear really is priceless.

6. Extend an invitation

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Let’s have lunch, want to join me to knock out some holiday shopping, how about getting coffee, want to see an movie…everyone likes to be invited. And on a related note…

7. Try someone else’s idea

Be open to letting someone else choose the restaurant, activity, etc., and then go with a positive attitude. Even if it turns out not to be your thing, they’ll appreciate that you gave it your best shot.

8. Give someone a gift (even a small one)

My two favorite types of small gifts are the things people don’t think to buy themselves (like fun versions of everyday items, or mini luxuries), and the things someone always needs (one of my friends at work regularly gives me colored Post Its, because I’m always running out). A few dollars is enough to say “I’m thinking of you”.

9. Give a group a gift

Group gifts are great because they increase the number of people benefiting, and sometimes create shared time and connections. A new game or activity can be great for a family, because everyone can enjoy it. At work, a shared gift can have a huge impact on the overall environment. Every once in a while one of my coworkers brings a bunch of flavored creamer for the coffee room, and everyone has a better morning. And you can imagine the excitement when a few of us went in together to upgrade the coffee machine.

10. Clean up (even if it isn’t your mess)

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If you make a mess, you should clean it up. We all know that…except that we also know that not everyone practices it. If you have the extra minute (and most of the time we do), clear off a table in the break room, rinse the dishes in the sink, return a shopping cart to the cart corral, etc. You’ll definitely be making someone else’s day a little bit easier.

11. Introduce yourself and/or have a conversation

Do you have a neighbor you wave to but have barely spoken to? A coworker you pass in the hall but couldn’t put a name to to save your life? A parent you see everyday waiting near you in the school pick up area? Take the time for a meet and greet.

12. Smile!

It’s good for you and the people you smile at. Don’t just take my word for it-click here to check out some science.Β 

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What are your favorite ways to spread kindness? Let me know in the comments!

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33 thoughts on “Worth Trying: 12 Acts of Kindness

  1. The Eclectic Contrarian says:

    This is an awesome upbeat message! You rock Amanda! I’ll have coffee.. strong and black.. with a donut πŸ˜πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thank you so much! (And now I’m suddenly craving donuts…)

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      1. The Eclectic Contrarian says:

        You’re going to be riding around for hours looking for a Krispy Kreme with the light on… thanks so much John!!! Lol!!

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      2. Amanda Cade says:

        Actually, it’s 8:00 in the morning here…and there’s a fantastic local donut shop near me that’s open 24/7. So if the urge doesn’t pass soon, I’m going to have to pop over there and say hello. πŸ™‚

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      3. The Eclectic Contrarian says:

        Kudos to you for not living in the boonies! Lol!!

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  2. Great ideas! On numerous occasions I have been in the driver thru at Starbucks and a person has bought my coffee. I make it a point to always pay it forward to brighten someone elses day.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      The first time someone did that for me, I was in the middle of a terrible day. It made me feel so much better that doing the same for others instantly became on of my favorite go-tos.

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  3. Katherine says:

    These are some really good advices!
    Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thanks, Katherine! I hope you’ll try one-it will improve your day, too. Win-win. πŸ˜‰

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      1. Katherine says:

        Of course I will, I have to remain with something, after all! πŸ˜€

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  4. Book Shoes says:

    This is so lovely! I’ll definitely try these out πŸ’ž

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Let me know how it goes!

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  5. Shell Vera says:

    I haven’t done 3 or 10, but this post was a beautiful affirmation that I live in a place of kindness!!! πŸ™ŒπŸ½πŸ™ŒπŸ½ I love to do nice things for people!! Great post!!!

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thank you so much! I really enjoyed writing this one.
      #10 is probably the one I do the most frequently, because my ability to spot a random piece of trash or a small spill boarders on a superpower. I’m pretty sure I contribute to cleanliness at least once a day.

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      1. Shell Vera says:

        Oh… I got my numbers wrong! It was the second 3 (bring food) and 9 (group gift) I haven’t done!! I’m can’t leave trash when I see it so that’s a natural state for me! These are the fun posts to write!!

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thanks, Robin. Have a great day!

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  6. frenchc1955 says:

    Amanda, thank you for these wonderful suggestions!

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      You’re welcome! Thanks so much for reading and commenting. πŸ™‚

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  7. Loved these ideas.
    Your act of kindness was getting these tips together for us.
    πŸ’•

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      You know, I hadn’t thought of it like that. I guess I can put another check in my kindness column. Lol. I’m continuing to really focus on kindness this week, because things are still a little crazy and I want to stay positive. Since I’m a serious planner, it’s helpful to have things in mind when I start my day.

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  8. A lovely post for the holiday, Amanda. I love random acts of kindness, and usually they cost us nothing while giving so much in return. Happy Holidays.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      I totally agree-kindness is always a worthwhile investment. πŸ™‚ Happy holidays to you, too.

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  9. Nice Post .. I really loved the option ’12. Smile!’ , and now I start doing this act… πŸ™‚

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      A smile is free, quick, simple…and powerful. πŸ™‚

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  10. During the Christmas rush of 2014, one person paused in my retail line at the cash registers and said. “thank you for working on the holidays.” It was the one and ONLY time anyone ever stopped to indicate they were realizing that those of us who work in retail often do so at the sacrifice of our own families and personal time… I will always remember that woman. She has gotten me through every holiday since, just knowing she said thank you once…

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Isn’t it amazing how small acts create exponential results?

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  11. I’m standing in the buffet line at Paris Las Vegas, and a stranger, seeing my veterans cap on, tells me he wants to pay for my brunch (over $25). He says he didn’t serve and this is his way of paying it forward. I thanked him and said I would accept his gift if he allowed me to take half and tell the cashier to take the other half and pay it forward to another veteran. Since Vegas is full of veterans, this would be no problem. He agreed, and we both ended up feeling good about it.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      What a great story! Kindness is contagious. πŸ™‚

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