Amanda Cade

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Valentine’s Day can be a seriously polarizing holiday. Some people absolutely adore it and look forward to an annual celebration of love and affection. Others find it a frustrating reminder of their single status, and some of those in relationships find themselves feeling anxious because of their desire to “get it right”. Then there are people like my friend Gloria, who enjoys wishing people a “Happy Hallmark Day”, and those who, like yours truly, aren’t in a relationship and don’t find that problematic.

People’s opinions are all over the place, but regardless of where you fall on the spectrum, and no matter what kind of Valentine’s Day you have in mind, I’m talking to you.

Yes, you. Because I’d like to propose that we all broaden our thoughts on how to think about February 14th. If it’s a day you tend to dread, a new approach might be just the ticket. If you’re a fan, why not try to make it even better? So hear’s what I’m suggesting:

Think about ALL the people you love.

PhotoEditor-1549766712546When I flip open my copy of Webster’s Dictionary, the very first definition of “love” has nothing to do with romance (that’s the second one). The first  definition is “strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties”.

I love my parents. I love my sisters. I love my nieces. I love my friends. I love a lot of people, and despite what the advertisements tell me, I don’t see any reason to limit a celebration of love to just one aspect of such a powerful emotion. Whether you’re single, dating, or happily committed, thinking about all the love in your world can’t do anything but make you feel better about your life. Take some time to reflect and appreciate the special people in your life.

Celebrate ALL the people you love.

PhotoEditor-1549768147528I think the romantic aspect of Valentine’s Day has been thoroughly covered elsewhere, so I’m going to skip that part. What I’m interested in is how to make Valentine’s Day a larger celebration of love in all its forms. So here are some things to consider:

  • Non-romantic cards and notes. My parents send me a Valentine’s Day card every year, and just seeing it in the mailbox makes me feel great. Do you remember those cartoon Valentines that we all gave out in elementary school (when you had to give one to everyone in the class, which I think is a really good rule)? I bought three or four boxes of them at Target last week, and I’m going to be mailing them to friends and handing them to coworkers, because it’s fun. And a little bit silly. And maybe, just maybe, it will be the little thing that brightens someone’s day just when they need it. If cartoon cards aren’t your thing, try a more traditional card, or note, or email. I’d be willing to bet that it would make someone in your life really happy.
  • Give a shout out to your favorite couple. Whether your relationship status is, chances are that you know a couple whose love and dedication to one another inspires you. Valentine’s Day is a great time to tell them how their relationship has affected you, and to celebrate their love. My mom and dad, my sister and brother-in-law, and my friend Katie and her husband are all wonderful examples of strong relationships, and it makes me happy just to be around them. On Valentine’s Day, I’m going to make sure they know that their love for each other makes my world a better place.
  • Share some love with a single. A lot of single people really struggle with loneliness on Valentine’s Day. I used to find it difficult myself, so I can sympathize when someone gets hearts and flowers overload. I try to be especially aware of my single friends around this time of year, because I know that some of them are probably feeling down. I’ve found that a little bit of chocolate can go a long way, so I give out a lot of platonic candy.
  • Share some love with whoever. The truth is that I give out a lot of candy, period. Not to mention little stuffed animals, gel pens, stickers…whatever I can collect and then hand someone as a little token that says “You’re important to me”.

Spread kindness, because kindness is love.

I shared some of my favorite acts of kindness in a post back in December (you can find it here). Valentine’s Day is a perfect time to spread as much kindness as possible. This year, I’m making kindness bingo cards and challenging my friends to play.

I might even give out prizes.

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What are some other ways we can spread the love on February 14th (and beyond)? Share your ideas in the comments!

26 thoughts on “Worth Trying: Enjoy Valentine’s Day Regardless of Your Relationship Status

  1. What a beautiful and creative idea Amanda! Blessings and enjoy your day✨

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thank you, Ann. I know that you spread love and kindness every day. 🙂

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      1. You’re welcome Amanda. Thank you, by the grace of God, I’m that light of positivity in this crazy and at times negative world. Blessings💛✨

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  2. The Eclectic Contrarian says:

    I know it can suck being single. But think of all the possibilities of being single! I wasted my single days thinking I couldn’t be happy unless I had someone. I’m married and happy now, but I can’t go out and freely meander like I used to…

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      I know exactly what you mean. Now, I’m actually totally ok being single, but it took me a while to realize that. The first hurdle was getting over the pervasive idea that it was a problem I needed to fix.

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      1. The Eclectic Contrarian says:

        Single isn’t a problem! Just like being married isn’t being fixed lol.. just enjoy yourself!

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  3. kagould17 says:

    As if our parents and peers do not put enough pressure on us to find that special someone,the marketers try to make us feel bad on Feb 14, so they can turn a buck. Love is about much more than just one day. Loving ourselves and others does not have to have romantic connotations. The world needs more love and more kind gestures. Romantic love comes when it comes, often, when we stop looking for it. 41 years married and still in love. Allan

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      I totally agree! I’m happier being single than I ever was trying to force the wrong relationship. Congratulations on 41 years-that’s wonderful!!!

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  4. Alex Raizman says:

    As someone who kind of dreads Valentines day when single, this was exactly what I needed. Thanks a ton!

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      You’re welcome! I’ll send you a bingo card. 😉

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  5. pjlazos says:

    Great idea! When I as single it was such a sad day and now that I’m married we barely make a big deal of it. I think it’s a construct of Hallmark!

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      I hate that so many people end up stressed out or bummed out about it. Boo to commercialization.

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  6. Shell Vera says:

    Each Valentine’s Day, I pay for random people’s drinks or food, depending upon where I go throughout the day. One year, I was doing really well and got such joy from paying for everyone’s coffee for an hour. Another year, I gave friends a day off and watched their kids for them, as it fell on a weekend. I try to do something sweet for my friends who don’t get to go out. I attended a friend’s Galentine’s dinner one year but they just talked about the kinds of guys they wanted so I won’t do that again, as I’m a happy single and enjoy it.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      I’ve done Valentine’s Day babysitting, too. It’s always appreciated.
      And I definitely agree that girls’ nights out can be dicey for the contented single. Most of my girlfriends are married or in long term relationships, so I’ve had to cure them of the habit of constantly trying to fix me up. Lol.

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      1. Shell Vera says:

        Lol I understand that feeling!

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  7. Great post! I was never big on celebrating events like Valentine’s Day, whether I was in a relationship or single. But I do think it’s nice to have fun with it and just wish someone/friends a Happy Valentine’s day! At work we played games and shared chocolates. So I’m all for your idea of sharing the love 🙂💕

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      That sounds like fun. I’m always up for chocolate. 🙂

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thank you. I had a great Valentines Day this year. How about you?

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      1. Nothing special just As usual 😀

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      2. According to my husband .. Valentine is not only on 14 feb.. All the days are Valentine’s day 😒

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      3. Perhaps the reality is he forgot the day :\

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