Amanda Cade

Worth It! (Things to try, read, watch, hear, and discuss)

Thanksgiving is this week, and so I’ve been thinking a lot about reasons to be thankful. This year, I’m really focusing on the amazing people in my life, and have been considering the qualities that make them so important. Today, I’d like to encourage you to think about who fulfills these (and other) roles in your world, and take the time to express your appreciation. Personally, I’m most grateful for: 

The Listeners

restaurant-people-lamps-vintageThe listeners are ready to hear it all. Your worries, your disappointments, your frustrations, as well as your opinions, random thoughts, rambles, and funny stories. They’re the people who give your their full attention, remember important details in later conversations, and always make you feel valued. Good listeners are a rare and precious thing, because let’s be honest, most people are a lot more interested in talking. My mother is the best listener I know. Just this past Friday, after an 11 hour work day, I accepted her last minute invitation to feed me and then spent an hour telling her about my crazy work week. The world was a much better place by the time I headed home. I am so blessed to have her, and other great listeners, in my life.

The Encouragers

friends-on-a-bench-e1560107824458.jpegThe encouragers are the people who are always there to pick you up when you fall. They are the helping hand when that is what you need most, and the gentle boot to the buttocks when necessary. They won’t let you get sucked into a self-pity trap, and instead remind you of how you have been stuck there before and why you were able to get out, then push you to actually take action. My friend Mike is one of the best encouragers I know, always ready to lift my spirits and get me back on track. When things get difficult, like they did back in September, my encouragers help me get through it.

The Motivators

start-doing.jpegThe central trait of people I think of as motivators is that they are always saying “do more stuff”. I like trying new things when I’m doing it, but I rarely try things out by myself or on my own initiative. It’s the motivators in my life who take those whims and push them to actual experiences. I’ve written several times about how my best friend Katie and I have traditions of trying new experiences. That totally came from her. Without her I’d have the idle thoughts, but would probably say “maybe someday” and then sit in my house with my book. This blog exists because of another great motivator, my friend Alex, who spent over a year convincing me to try writing again, after a very long hiatus. He’s the reason this blog exists and has become such an important part of my life.

The Cheerleaders

starsThese are the people who really celebrate your accomplishments, and make sure you never miss a small victory. I will never forget my sister Audrey calling one evening and exclaiming, “Mom told me about the big increase in your team’s whatchamacallit metrics. I don’t know what it means, but I’m super proud of you!” That is a direct quote. Then she asked me to explain it to her and got doubly excited. Cheerleaders constantly remind us that we’re worthwhile people who do great things, even when the great things are also small things. 

The Colleagues

working-together.jpegI often refer to all of my co-workers as my colleagues, but Colleague with the capital C is something totally different. These are the people we want to be working with when the pressure is on. The people who are always on the same wavelength, and often the people whose strengths balance our weaknesses and visa-versa. Not to mention the people we’d want on our team in the zombie apocalypse. My “work husband” is one of the world’s best Colleagues. I feel like we can solve any problem and tackle any challenge when we’re working together. 

The Geek-Out Partners

mapThings I love almost to the point of obsession: Books. Comic books. Fantasy & Science Fiction. Scary movies. The circus. Coffee. Things my sister Amy loves to the point of obsession: Books. Comic books. Fantasy & Science Fiction. Scary movies. The circus. Coffee. See my point? “Hey Amy, do you want to go see the Avengers for the sixth time?” “Hey Amanda, should we watch that six hour documentary on circus history?” “Let’s go to that convention in Atlanta.” People who are into the things you love are great, because they’re always ready to talk about and pursue your shared interests. 

The Problem Solver

plan and toolsSometimes you want to talk about a problem. Other times you want to fix it. Still other times you want to fix it, but it seems unfixable, or you have no idea where to start. Thank God for problem solvers. The best one in my life, hands down, is my dad. If he doesn’t just know what to do (which he usually does), he will figure it out. Once, after watching a very strange movie, a group of friends and I asked ourselves the question, “What would we do if we had a car full of monster bodies?” I said, immediately, “Call my dad”. A few days later I actually asked him what he would do in that highly unlikely situation. Without a moment’s pause, he said, “Make sure there was no immediate danger, find out if there was potential legal trouble, then ask for an explanation as soon as there was time”. Whatever the issue, problem solvers jump right in to figure out and implement solutions, and make everything much easier.

I love you guys

Who are the people you’re thankful for? Leave a comment and brag on your amazing circle!

44 thoughts on “People To Be Thankful For

  1. fakeflamenco says:

    Amanda, I really like how you’ve made categories to specify all the wonderful help you get from beloved friends, colleagues and family. This was an inspiration. Happy holiday!

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thinking about everyone’s specific traits really helped me to appreciate them more. I’m incredibly blessed to have so many wonderful people in my life.

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      1. fakeflamenco says:

        It’s wonderful to have people to fill all those important roles. Definitely a gift to feel thankful for this week and all year.

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  2. Wonderful post! I’ve just moved my blog from WordPress to my Godaddy website. I would like to invite you to guest publish this post there…as soon as I can figure out how to do that. I didn’t take my smart pill this morning. LOL Would you be willing to do that?

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Absolutely!
      What’s your new blog address?

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      1. Godaddy’s help desk also forgot to take their smart pill this morning! 🥴 the way I understand it, I’ll introduce you as a guest blogger in a post, and you can either comment with your blog’s link or paste the blog in the comment box. That sounds convoluted to me, but your list this morning was so good I’m willing to give it a go, if you are. Just say so and I’ll post the introduction. I guess posting a comment with your link might be the easiest way. Please let me know what you prefer.

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      2. Amanda Cade says:

        Sounds good. I’ll post the link in a comment when the intro is up. Just tell me where. ☺

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      3. Here goes the great experiment. https://dansantos.us/bio-and-blog/f/todays-guest-blogger Thanks for being such a good sport!

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      4. Thanks, Amanda. It sort of worked. I was hoping the blog as you published it would appear. But, the link is functional. I suppose that’s close enough for government work. 🤣 I’ll be working with GoDaddy in the next few days to see how we can improve the process. Just in case, I haven’t deleted my WordPress account. I can always go back to my blog there. Once more, congratulations on today’s great post!

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  3. Amanda, this is wonderful! I would like to share an excerpt on my blog today. 🙂

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thank you so much! Feel free to excerpt or repost from my blog any time. 🙂

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  4. kagould17 says:

    Always good to thank the important people in your life. Good post Amanda. Allan

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thank you. I hope you’re surrounded by important people this season. 🙂

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  5. Shell Vera says:

    I have some cheerleaders and motivators in my crew who I am so thankful for. I have also come to appreciate the problem solvers more because they provide good options for me to consider!

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Cheerleaders serve such an important role in my life. I’m usually moving so fast that I often need a reminder to celebrate what I’ve just accomplished before I go on to the next thing.

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      1. Shell Vera says:

        I agree. I’m a cheerleader for others but forget to do it for myself. I’m thankful for those who remind me where I am doing well!

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  6. That is such a nice idea and so well executed.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thank you. I hope you have a great week ahead of you.

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      1. Most welcome.
        And you too. 😍

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  7. Dawn Hensley says:

    This is SUCH a great blog! And such a good reminder that the people in our lives make us who we are. Thank you!

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thank you so much! I’m stealing the sweet potato pie recipe from your blog. I’m glad we found each other’s posts today. 😀

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      1. Dawn Hensley says:

        Yes!!! And, depending on how you like your pie – the “Sweeter sweet potato pie” is just a little sweeter and creamier. Good luck! Looking forward to more of your blog posts!

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  8. masercot says:

    I’m a listener… which is why loud obnoxious people tend to go to me…

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  9. cestlaviveee says:

    I try my best to to wake up each morning and be grateful. Whenever I do this, I am always grateful for the wonderful people that I have in my life. It also helps me wake up feeling calmer and happier, and I can then set my intent for the day, leaving me more motivated and driven throughout the day.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      What a great way to start the day!

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  10. Paul says:

    geek-out partners are the best — you never realise how much fun it is to obsess over some book, film or TV show until you realise there’s no-one around whose quite as obsessed 😉

    Also, someone nominated me for a blogger award and since I generally like survey type posts I played along and I hope you don’t mind that I have nominated you next. No obligation, obviously, but I did want to let you know.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      I just finished the new Brandon Sanderson and am waiting for one of my fellow geeks to catch up so we can discuss it. I’m SO glad to know people who read the same books I do. ☺ I’ll take a look at the award post when I get a chance. Still drowning in work over here. Lol

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      1. Paul says:

        Brandon Sanderson is an author whose been on my must-read list for far too long. One of these days I will get around to reading him. I say this about far too many authors 😉

        Drowning in work is something we can probably all identify with 😉

        Have fun 🙂

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      2. Amanda Cade says:

        Sanderson is one of my all time favorite authors. 📚💕

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      3. Paul says:

        I should move him up my to-read list.

        Just as soon as I’m fully caught up on Adrian Tchaikovsky’s output 😉

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  11. The Eclectic Contrarian says:

    I think I’m a bit of the first 3…

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      1. The Eclectic Contrarian says:

        😊

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  12. The Eclectic Contrarian says:

    May I ask how you liked the new blog? (Be bluntly honest you’re not gonna hurt my feelings)

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      I bluntly, honestly like it a lot. 😀👍

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      1. The Eclectic Contrarian says:

        Ok awesome! 🙌🏻 it’s very different for me exposing that side of me. And I don’t know why love/passion and that sort of stuff so greatly inhabits the majority of my writing but I’m not complaining. But it’s baring a part of me few ever see…

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      2. Amanda Cade says:

        I’m looking forward to seeing more of your work.

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      3. The Eclectic Contrarian says:

        I’ve scheduled one for every day this week!

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