Amanda Cade

Worth It! (Things to try, read, watch, hear, and discuss)

In last week’s post, we looked at the dangers of spending extended periods of time stuck in the stress response-aka survival mode-as well as how to recognize it. This week, let’s discuss how to respond.

Short Term Response

breathingJust like the stress response is physiological, our bodies have a counter mode: the relaxation response. This is what happens when our brains send the “all clear” message to our bodies, allowing all those fight or flight processes to turn off and stop messing with our balance. Obviously, the most effective way to trigger the relaxation response is to stop feeling stress, but that’s easier said than done. Instead, there’s a way to work it backwards, and that’s with breathing. Slow, deep breaths signal the body and the brain that it’s time to drop out of crisis mode. I wrote a post back in September about dealing with stress in the moment, which gets into a more detail about breathing, as well as a few other techniques.

As far as the tasks you have that are stressing you out, what becomes important is triage. You need to identify what tasks are most critical or urgent and resolve those first, so you can try to avoid falling further behind. You also need to give yourself permission to stop. One of the most damaging elements of crisis mode is that we become convinced that every second is critical, and so there’s no time for rest, breaks, personal needs, etc. However, not only is that attitude bad for our health, but it also makes us less effective in accomplishing those critical tasks, because we’re burnt out and exhausted.

Mid Term Response

Survival mode isn’t just a moment to moment thing-it’s a cumulative result of multiple repeated stresses, and a pattern of mental response. So the fixes also need to go beyond the moment. One of the hardest things about these is that they take time, and when you’re in survival mode, time is something you don’t feel like you have. However, time spent taking care of yourself will definitely help you break out of the cycle. Getting a good night’s sleep will always more than give you that time back in increased productivity. Exercise is also important for managing stress, because your body is producing chemicals saying you need to engage in physical activity – fighting or running – so exercise tells your body it’s doing the right thing and therefore doesn’t need to keep trying to make you fight or flee.

vegetablesDiet is crucial as well. When you’re stressed, your body starts to demand carbohydrates, since it’s convinced it needs them to help you deal with the physical danger in front of you (remember, your body always assumes you’re in physical danger). Again, we can blame this one on our ancestors, as they were often in physical danger, plus there were times of famine. In both those cases, favoring sugar and fat helped them survive. In the modern world, however, sugar and fat definitely aren’t in short supply, so our physiological response is in direct opposition to best practices. Our bodies want us to mainline sugar, like, just as a random example, eating a dozen donuts in the course of one morning. Ok, so that example wasn’t so random; in fact, it’s what inspired me to really dig into the relationship between food and stress. I wasn’t surprised to find that eating a balanced diet is important, but I was pretty interested in the science behind it.

Let me summarize the research for you. The gut microbiome has a huge impact on how we feel. Many of the bacteria in our stomach that feed off sugary and fatty foods also produce chemicals that make us feel stressed. When we give them what they want, instead of being satisfied and shutting up, they produce more stress-inducing chemicals, because they’re greedy little buggers. On the other hand, many of the bacteria that eat fiber, meat, vegetables, and fruit produce chemicals that help us relax, so when we starve them, they aren’t in a position to help us out. This creates a feedback loop, and is part of why long term survival mode can trigger the serious health problems I mentioned last time. By making yourself eat a balanced diet, you stop rewarding the stress bacteria, and foster growth of the ones that produce relaxation chemicals. 

Long Term Response

listThis is where you assess and try to make changes. Reflect on what caused your life to get overwhelming, and consider how to prevent it in the future. Were there warning signs you can look for next time? Are there preventative measures you didn’t know enough to see before? Can you delegate or ask for help moving forward? Are there things that you’d do differently now that you’ve been through it?

Additionally, making the short and mid term responses (breathing, rest, diet) a part of your everyday life will make you less likely to fall into survival mode, and being aware of the warning signs will make it easier to head it off at the pass.

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How do you avoid living in “fight or flight” mode? Add your suggestions in the comments!

13 thoughts on “Coping With Survival Mode

  1. The Eclectic Contrarian says:

    My wife is a pretty good over reactor. I’m the opposite, I guess I’m an under reactor… I need to know the situation in it’s entirety and then I start with a plan to bring it under control as fast as possible.

    Not trying to be Superman but panic should be the last resort.

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  2. Paul says:

    You’ve touched on this a bit already, but I think one of the most important things you can do is recognise — and accept — that you can’t do everything. However much you do, however much effort you put in, there will always be more stuff to do.

    There are things that need to be done now, there are things that can wait and there are things that… realistically, will never be done.

    On a tangential note, have you read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey? His categorisation of activities based on importance and urgency addresses this in much more detail.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      I have read it. It’s a great book with a lot of useful suggestions and information.

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  3. Marushka says:

    Hello there, I really enjoyed this post! You are absolutely correct, sleep is very important in stress management; sleep and circadian rhythms help regulate your body’s ability to respond to stress by releasing healthy or unhealthy amounts of the stress hormone cortisol. Neuroscience aside, I also find that many problems resolve themselves while I take a nap – or at least I am prevented from making any rash decisions :).

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Sleep is so critical. I’m always horrified when I hear people say that they’re skipping sleep to get caught up. That’s the worst choice to make.

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  4. Sandhya says:

    Hey! I really enjoyed reading your posts. Do check out mine and follow/like to support a fellow blogger. Also, keep writing interesting posts!

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Thanks, and will do!


  5. Harry says:

    Its important to keep a balance in your life.

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  6. Lisa Mace says:

    Our body’s natural pharmacy is open for business when we do these things suggested. I do as much of this as I can & I include going in & being with what’s coming up for me via somatic processing. My favorite way to do this is with a methodology called Feldenkrais. It’s an elegant & super-comfortable way to do this in my own time, on my own terms.
    Online classes are now being offered so that we can also be in the safety & comfort of our own homes as we do this.
    That’s twice as good because staying home is the suggestion right now. So instead of it being isolating, it becomes a group healing situation. Check it out, it’s a life-saver. Use this time to reflect & recuperate & just be.

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    1. Amanda Cade says:

      Good advice. Thank you, and take care of yourself. 💕


  7. Lisa Mace says:

    Will do for sure & you too. xoxo

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