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Worth It! (Things to try, read, watch, hear, and discuss)

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Happy nostalgia! During the holidays, I managed to see four movies in the theater. First it was all about the superheros (see my review of Spiderman: Into the Spider-Verse and Aquaman), and then came two films that went straight to my childhood.

Let’s break it down.

Bumblebee

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I went into Bumblebee with a lot of trepidation. I’ve had very mixed reactions to the Transformers movies, and actually never got around to seeing the last two. However, Bumblebee has always been my favorite Transformer (I think his 1980s action figure might still be somewhere in my parents’ basement), and this looked like it might be a departure from some of the things that annoyed me about the other films. Plus, my parents wanted to see it.

At any rate, I’m glad we went, because the movie is a lot of fun. Bumblebee is delightful as he stumbles through adjusting to Earth (a problem complicated by damage to his memory cells) and forms a bond with Charlie, his new human friend. (I definitely preferred Charlie and her family to the Witwicky clan of the first three movies. Did anyone else groan when Sam’s parents came to visit in Dark of the Moon?) The action beats are appropriately paced, and very well done. The scope of the fights fits the scale of the movie, and are exciting without being overwhelming.

The movie is set in the 1980s, and this affects more than just the props and scenery. The soundtrack is filled with period favorites, there are several fun references to The Breakfast Club, and we even get over the top rich kid bullies. The film is firmly grounded in its era, and I really appreciated that.

The storyline is fairly predictable, and at times goes a little cheesy, but that’s really a minor quibble. In my opinion, Bumblebee is definitely worth it. And robot fights are cool. I just needed to say that.

Mary Poppins Returns

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Does Mary Poppins Returns measure up to Mary Poppins? That’s the question everyone seems to be asking, and I honestly think it’s the wrong question. The first movie has over fifty years of memories, cultural relevance, and resonance. It’s a cherished childhood experience and a true classic. I’m not sure it’s even possible to find the level of objectivity necessary to answer that question.

So instead, I pose this one: Is Mary Poppins Returns a worthwhile sequel to the beloved film?

I say yes. It takes us back to the setting, atmosphere, and magic of the original. It pays homage to many of the touchstones of Mary Poppins, including the critical live action/animated musical number. The grown up incarnations of Jane and Michael Banks are completely believable based on their characterizations as children. Emily Blunt had some very big shoes to fill, but she pulls it off, with a portrayal of Mary that feels very close to Julie Andrews’ interpretation of the role.

Critical reception has been mixed, with the average trending toward “meh”, but personally, I think that if you liked Mary Poppins, you should give Mary Poppins Returns a try.

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Have you seen Bumblebee or Mary Poppins Returns? Do you want to see them? Any other good movies in theaters right now? Let’s discuss!

Grandparents 2

Let me preface this by saying that I could not have been blessed with better parents. They always have been, and continue to be, loving, honest, supportive people who are my very best role models. I had a wonderful childhood, and would have to struggle to find anything to criticize about the way they raised us. I should also mention that since they’re retired now, they have a lot more free time.

Disclaimers aside, now it’s time to poke fun at them. You see, almost ten years ago my parents became grandparents, and now they say and do things that occasionally make me suspect that maybe, just maybe, these aren’t the same people I grew up with.

Here are some examples:

“I have everyone’s favorite.”

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Dessert was never a common thing in my parents’ house. It was for special occasions, and if it was your special occasion, then you got your favorite, naturally. However, there was one dessert, and that’s what you ate, and you were thankful to have it. Granted, our family is larger now, so we probably need two (or one jumbo size), but we never need four desserts.

Four. At every family dinner. Because we need to make sure everyone has something they love. I mean, that’s also good for me (hooray for chocolate), but this is certainly a change from the parents I used to know. Speaking of dessert…

“A little extra sugar won’t hurt.”

If there’s four options, and one of the girls wants all four, what’s the harm? There’s nothing wrong with one more cookie. Let’s have donuts on Christmas morning. Or just because it’s Saturday.

Keep in mind, these are the same people who restricted our weekly soft drink intake. Suspicious behavior indeed.

“Let’s go to a movie/amusement park/concert/zoo…”

Don’t get me wrong, my parents were big on spending time with us. We had dinner together every night, played games, had constant conversations, went out to eat once a week…Mom and Dad always had room for family time.

Going out for activities, however, was neither constant nor spur of the moment. These kinds of things were planned, scheduled, budgeted, and long anticipated. I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times my parents planned an outing with less than 72 hours notice (and 72 hours was a pretty short timeframe).

My nieces’ grandparents, however, do this all the time. Forget schedules and planning-let’s go to the Magic House! The people who taught me the importance of scheduling (and introduced me to the joys of to do lists and calendars) are suddenly whimsical and capricious. My Spider-Sense is tingling.

“I saw this and just had to buy it for you.”

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You know what else my parents taught us to do? Save! Budget! They took care of everything we needed, and were generous to a point, but only to a point. Beyond that, if it wasn’t Christmas or your birthday, then you knew how to get the things you wanted: use your own money. For larger purchases, they would pay half if we saved the other half (which I totally support, because it really helped us learn about priorities and responsibility), but other than that we had our allowances, and then we had jobs, and that was that.

So who are these people who are randomly buying presents all the time? On a related note…

“Here, have some money.”

There have been no chores, and it is not a special occasion, but I have some cash so I’m just going to give it to you?! *What is happening?!*

“Don’t worry if you’re late.”

Once upon a time, in the not so distant past, my father would have insisted that tardiness was the eighth Deadly Sin.

These days, as long as the grandkids arrive at some point, it doesn’t matter if the rest of the family has spent twenty minutes watching dinner get cold. And don’t think my sister doesn’t take full advantage of this.

“Be sure to let the kids win.”

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You know what else my father used to be? Competitive. Super competitive. He refused to let us win at Candyland. He formed coalitions in Monopoly, and then ruthlessly turned on his former partners. He stayed up late trying to learn to beat us at video games. He could handle losing, but only after fighting to the death.

So it probably won’t surprise you to hear that his daughters grew up to be much the same. Now, however, we all have to lose. All the time. No exceptions.

“Go ahead and eat that in the car. It’s ok if you spill.”

I can’t even talk about this one.

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How widespread is the pod people invasion? Anyone in your life acting suspicious? Let’s compare notes!

So the first three of my favorite 2018 reads are books that were actually published in 2018, and the other three are books that had been on my TBR list for a while and that I finally read in 2018. I spent a long time planning for and writing this post, because I read literally hundreds of books this year. After much consideration, I’ve narrowed my list to what I consider the best of the best.

So here we go:

Top Pick/Best Fantasy: Spinning Silver by Naomi Novik

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I’m a sucker for fairy tales, and I really enjoy books that combine them with more mature elements and a more modern literary style (I hesitate to say “dark fantasy”, because that term has come to be associated with more hard-core elements, and that isn’t the case here.) I read Naomi Novik’s Uprooted back in 2015, and really, really liked it. There was so much about it that really worked for me: the pastoral setting, offset by the terrifying and fascinating Wood, the mysterious and complicated wizard, the monsters, quests, and twists…I definitely enjoyed the book. However, it didn’t quite make it to my favorites list, because I felt that the protagonist was a little too much of a “special snowflake”, the magic became a little too deus ex, and the romance just annoyed me.

Spinning Silver, on the other hand, had none of those issues. (Side note: I find it interesting that there’s a distinct line between those who prefer Spinning Silver and those who prefer Uprooted. Basically, there are a lot of people who really loved some of the same elements of Uprooted that I didn’t care for, and so they were disappointed in their absence. It definitely highlights the individual tastes of different readers…but I digress).

There’s so much that I love about this book that it’s hard to decide what to focus on here. Most reviews and blurbs start with the connection to Rumpelstiltskin (as in “inspired by” or “a re-imagining of”), and that’s definitely where the book begins. Miryem, a moneylender’s daughter and the first viewpoint character, gives us a snarky, bitter-tinged interpretation of the tale that beautifully establishes her character and made me absolutely adore her. There are a few other obvious connections to the old story (and a few more if you dig a little deeper), but on the whole Novik leaves Rumpelstiltskin in the dust and goes for something so much greater.

After getting the reader hooked on Miryem’s story, Novik introduces us to Wanda, a farmer’s daughter who comes to work for Miryem and her family. Although at first I was annoyed to be moving away from Miryem, I soon became committed to Wanda, and the more I read about her the more I became engrossed in her life and challenges.

Then we have Irina, daughter of an ambitious nobleman. Her father’s hopes for his daughter and his house bring her into contact with Miryem, and change the course of her life, tying her into the greater plotline.

Each of the three protagonists is a dynamic, fascinating character, and the other characters in the book are also complex and fascinating. Novik skillfully moves characters together, apart, and together again. She shows the impact of their separate actions on each other, expertly weaving the parallel storylines into a compelling whole. I especially loved the way she explored different aspects of the same broad themes.

And at the heart of it all: The StarykDrawn from Slavic mythology, influenced by legends of the fae, these creatures, and their land of eternal winter, are the catalyst of the novel. In a novel full of remarkable imagery, the Staryk are the definite standouts. Novik carefully builds them into the novel, starting with brief mentions and slowly bringing them to the center, and I was fascinated and enchanted by them.

I could discuss this book forever, but let me just close with this: The book was published last summer. Since then, I have read it three times, listened to the audiobook twice, given it as a gift to three people, and recommended it to countless people. Without a doubt my 2018 favorite.

Best Young Adult/Science Fiction: Skyward by Brandon Sanderson

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I love Brandon Sanderson. He’s an author whose work I preorder, eagerly await, and start reading asap. He excels at world building, so the first book in a new Sanderson series is always extra exciting, because you know you’re going to be introduced to a new, interesting, and well thought out world, as well as great characters and interesting conflicts.

His last YA trilogy, The Reckoners (Steelheart, Firefight, and Calamity), captured my imagination so completely that I still reread it once a year and recommend it to both teens and adults. So I had high hopes for Skyward, and those hopes were realized in a thoroughly enjoyable book.

Skyward presents a world at war under constant threat from a mysterious alien species, leading to most of the population living underground while pilots (the undisputed heroes of this world) take to the air to defend both surface and subterranean dwellers. Our heroine is Spensa, whose determination to become a pilot is only outweighed by the obstacles in her path. In the fashion of most YA protagonists, she has some exceptional skills going for her, but also has a lot to learn (starting with exactly how much she needs to learn). Of course, there are people out to help her, others out to get in her way, a few lucky breaks, some hard work, life lessons, and mysteries to be revealed…in other words, it’s a YA novel.

However, it’s also a Sanderson novel, which means that while there are some predictable twists and a few heavy-handed tropes, the description, plot, character development, and emotional resonance that makes Skyward stand far above the other YA novels I read this year, and also my favorite science fiction read.

Best Thriller/Horror: The Outsider by Stephen King

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I’m a loyal Stephen King fan, and have read everything he’s ever written. I’m also realistic, and will freely admit that his work isn’t for everyone, and that not everything he writes is stellar…or even, in my opinion, very good (*cough* Dreamcatcher *cough* Lisey’s Story *cough*). However, his Bill Hodges trilogy (Mr. MercedesFinders Keepers, and End of Watch) is some of his best work, and something I repeatedly recommend. King has often used police officers and crime investigations as elements of his novels, but Mr. Mercedes was the first time he made them the absolute centerpiece, and the book is awesome.

So what does that have to do with The Outsider? Although the aforementioned trilogy finished with End of Watch, it becomes apparent early in The Outsider that King wasn’t finished with investigation as a central element, and later the reader discovers that he also wasn’t finished with the Bill Hodges universe. There are some pretty significant crossovers. You don’t have to read the original trilogy first, but there are some spoilers in The Outsider. (Also, while this is a great book, I don’t think it’s quite as good as the first two Hodges books, which are among my all-time favorites.)

Ok, let me get back on track. The Outsider begins with an unlikely suspect being arrested for a horrific crime (and be forewarned: King isn’t squeamish when it comes to the details). The early stages of the plot is developed through a linear present narrative interspersed with transcripts of earlier witness interviews, evidence reports, etc. It’s very well written and really effective, because the reader becomes invested in the characters while learning about the crime and investigation. By the time the pace of events starts to accelerate (and certain things start raising serious questions for the characters), the book has become totally immersive.

In a lot of ways, The Outsider is a mosaic of many of King’s strengths: character development, strong prose, engaging dialogue, mystery, and the supernatural. It was a book I literally could not force myself to stop reading.

Best Literary Fiction: The Kite Runner by Kahled Hosseini

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I know, I know…I was seriously behind on this one. I actually bought this when it was first published way back in 2003, but there was a lot going on in my life and I kept putting it off. Then I somehow lost my copy, so it slipped my mind. Since then, once or twice a year I’ve remembered that I really want to read it, but I would remember while I was stuck in traffic, or at dinner with a friend, or in some other circumstance that meant I couldn’t get it right away. Then, of course, I would forget. A few months ago I had another of those random “I need to read The Kite Runner” moments, and this time I took advantage of my Kindle and bought it immediately.

I read this book in a single evening, and then ordered everything else Hosseini has written. The book follows Amir, the protagonist, from his childhood in Afghanistan, to his adult life in the United States, and finally back to Afghanistan (for reasons I can’t possibly share without spoilers). More than anything, I think this book is about relationships: family, friendship, and romance all leave an indelible mark on Amir, and contribute to his evolution as a character. A selfish and tragic decision he makes early in the novel forms a lot of the plot’s backbone, and Hosseini handles this with great skill, because the reader is still able to sympathize with Amir and hope that he can someday find peace and make some kind of restitution.

The Kite Runner is a fascinating, beautifully written examination of culture, relationships, betrayal and redemption. Hosseini doesn’t pull any punches, and some scenes are difficult to read, but the moments of cruelty and brutality are necessary to the story and are offset by those of joy and resolution.

I can’t believe I waited so long.

Best Memoir: Born With Teeth by Kate Mulgrew

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When Kate Mulgrew, best known as Captain Janeway on Star Trek: Voyager, published her memoir back in 2016, I knew I wanted to read it (largely because I’m a Star Trek fan). When it got rave reviews, I knew I wanted to read it even more. This is another instance of me getting distracted, but at least this time it didn’t take me fifteen years to get around to it.

I ended up buying this book three times in four days. First, I got the Kindle edition so I could read it. Second, I ordered a paperback to give to my sister. Finally, I bought the Audible edition so I could hear Mulgrew’s reading of her own story. So obviously, I think it’s a winner.

Not only has Mulgrew had a very interesting life, but she’s also an extremely gifted writer. An issue I sometimes have with memoirs is that they can feel unfocused and meandering, as the authors tell on a linear story without giving enough consideration to themes and narrative structure. That was not the case with Born With Teeth. It was excellently paced, exceptionally balanced, and absolutely riveting. Mulgrew is direct and unapologetic about her choices, mistakes, and successes, and her reflective and evocative prose makes this a must read.

Best Nonfiction: The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

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This was yet another book I kept meaning to get around to, and finally did. It only took six years, but let’s ignore that. The Power of Habit is another book I sat down and read from cover to cover in one sitting, because it was just so interesting. It gave some great insight, backed up with research that was easily understood by the not-so-scientifically-minded (that would be me) on our behavior and how to change it. It caused me to really examine the habits I have, and consider the negative ones I’d like to break and the positive ones I’d like to add. Putting some of the ideas from this book into practice has made a noticeable difference in several aspects of my life.

The part of the book that really fascinated me were the case studies. Having taken some classes in organizational leadership, I was enthralled by the stories of how some of the book’s principles have been demonstrated in various arenas, and the surprising impact they’ve had. Also, I’m now a little afraid of Target.

I’ve loaned this book to friends, coworkers, and my boss, and all of them have responded favorable. Reading it was a morning well spent.

Book Stack

Which of these books have you read? Which ones do you want to read? What should I read next? Let’s talk about books!!!

My friend Alex posted some tips on achieving writing goals, AND shared his tracking spreadsheet, which I’m totally going to start using!

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While you’re here, check out some of what I wrote last year and get a free book!

2019 is just around the corner! For the past ten years, my new years resolution was to write a novel. Last year, I accomplished that, and was able to publish Weird Theology. This year my new year’s resolution is to publish two novels, Weird Theology’s sequel Strange Cosmology and either book three in that series or book one in a new series, the Dragon’s Scion, but since both of those are written and just need a lot of editing, I feel like making that my resolution is a bit too easy.

So instead, I set a different resolution: write, on average, two thousand new words a day. If I stick to that, I’ll have written seven-hundred and fifty thousand words for the year. Given my first book clocked in at about one hundred…

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When I got home on Christmas Eve, I was surprised and excited to see two messages containing a Liebster Award nomination.

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One was from Dee at Ntroverted Xtrovert, who described the award like this:

“The Liebster Award is an award that exists only on the internet and is given to bloggers by other bloggers, whose work they find interesting, to motivate them and promote them as well. The earliest case of the award goes as far back as 2011. Liebster in German means sweetest, kindest, nicest, dearest, beloved, lovely, kind, pleasant, valued, cute, endearing, and welcome.”

The other nomination came from LaRena at LaRena’s Corner, who said:

“Liebster award is an award for bloggers from bloggers. In this award, fellow bloggers nominate a blogger especially when he/she is new. This type of awards gives a nice kick to an upcoming bloggers career. It boosts his/her morale. It also provides the much-needed recognition to an aspiring blogger.”

SO COOL! I think the idea behind the Liebster is so lovely, and I’m thrilled to get a nod from two bloggers whose writing I love. THANK YOU!!!

UPDATE: Just a few minutes ago I got a third nomination, from Dr. Tanya at Salted Caramel. I am overwhelmed with excitement right now. I’ve added a few of her questions to my Q&A section.

Here’s how it works:

  • Create a new blog post on your blog thanking the person that nominated you, link to their blog and put in a graphic of the award.
  • Answer the questions that were provided, and then share some facts about yourself.
  • Create a new set of your own questions for others to answer.
  • Nominate 5-11 others and share your blog post with them so they can accept their awards

When I looked at the questions provided by Dee and LaRena, I realized this is also a great opportunity to talk about a few things I was considering including in future posts, so this is a total win. I’ve picked out a mix of questions from the two nomination posts. So here goes:

What makes you passionate about blogging?

I used to write a lot. Fiction, essays, reflections, reviews…a little bit of everything, really. I even won a few contests and submitted some things for publication. Then somewhere along the line I just…stopped. With the exception of my journal, I didn’t write anything for years. For a variety of reasons, I recently decided I wanted to try writing again, and a blog seemed like a great way to get started. It’s been awesome! I’m feeling more motivated, more creative, and I’m getting to know some amazing people.

If you could use someone else’s brain for the day whose would you choose?

My mother’s. She is a naturally warm, open, and engaging person who draws others to her and effortlessly forms connections. I would love to have an inside perspective on how she constantly brightens peoples’ days.

Name your best holiday experience, by that I mean relaxing, adventure or something else? 

I took a trip to China some years back, sort of on a whim. Well, I had lots of time to prepare for the trip, but I booked it on a whim. It’s the only time I’ve ever taken an expensive, unconventional vacation, and it was incredible. I would love to go back.

If you could learn a different language in a day which would you choose and why?

Spanish, because I interact with a lot of Spanish speakers and would really like to be able to converse with them more easily. I’ve actually been trying to learn some Spanish, but so far I’m not especially good at it.

What is/was your favorite subject in high school?

English. I’m sure that surprises no one.

In general, are you satisfied with your life?

Yes. I love my job, I have an amazing family and wonderful friends, and I’m in a secure position financially. I am very blessed. I used to be very unhappy, but I made the decision to focus on the positive and make efforts to change the things that made me unhappy. That led me to buy a house, go to graduate school, change my diet, and so on. When I start to feel down, I always ask myself, “What can I do about it?”

What is your philosophy in life?

I actually just posted it the other day on my Instagram:

_It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye._ -Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Did you Participate in a scientific competition and what was it about?

My school had a science fair and competition for grades 1-8. The projects were fun, and I was a super competitive kid, so I looked forward to it each year.

If money was no object where would you travel in the world? 

That would be a really tough call. I would like to go back to China, but maybe I should take the opportunity to see something else. Could I do a European tour? That’s cheating, isn’t it. Um…I’m going to go with Ireland, because I have several friends who have been there and raved about the experience.

If you were a superhero, which power would you like to have? 

I would like to be able to freeze time, because there’s always so much I want to accomplish.

What is your favourite tea or coffee?

Tea: Country Peach Passon by Celestial Seasonings. Coffee: Caramel Vanilla Creme by Green Mountain.

Do you think that it is essential for a blog to have a specific niche?

I hope not. Lol. I suppose that depends on what your goals are. Personally, I just want to share cool stuff and fun stories, so I don’t think I have a niche…more of a very loose theme.

Share a link/links to your favourite blog posts.

Definitely last week’s post about wrapping Christmas presents. It was so much fun to write.

Facts About Me

  • I read at least one book every week
  • Pudding is my comfort food
  • When I feel sad, I watch The Muppets
  • I love musicals
  • My boss has described me several times as “The Go-To Girl”
  • When I have a bad day, I go to my parents’ house
  • I’m irrationally afraid of bugs

My Nominations

John at The Eclectic Contrarian

Shell Vera at The Essential Creative

Shaz at Faith & Turtles

Alex at Alex Raizman

Megan at Boots & Bloody Marys

Maythe at Someday I’ll Be On Time

You can use the same questions I answered above, and/or replace any of them from this list:

  • What movie do you watch over and over again?
  • What song is your personal anthem?
  • Who is your real life hero?
  • When people describe you, what two words do they use most often?
  • What’s worth missing sleep?

I love you guys

I had a lot of fun answering these questions. Anything else you’d like to know? Ask away!

December Movies

Before I forget, I did promise to share my thoughts on The Grinch. It was cute and fun, better than the Jim Carey version, not as good as the original, and definitely appealing to kids. I don’t have much more to say about it, really, so on to the main event.

Clash of the Superhero Movies

I love superheros. I’ve been a comic book fan since I was a kid, and it’s awesome that so many of my favorite characters have hit the big screen in great films. With two new offerings in the theater, I would be thrilled to be able to recommend them both…

…but I just can’t. I saw Spider-Man: Into the Spiderverse on Thursday, and thought it was a great film that succeeds on so many levels. I saw Aquaman on Friday, and was decidedly underwhelmed. (Critical and fan reactions have been mixed on this one, and a bunch of people in the theater applauded when it was over, so take my opinion for just that: an opinion.)

Let’s get a little more specific:

Visuals

I’m happy to give Aquaman an unqualified two thumbs up here. The movie is gorgeous, with stunning depictions of the world beneath the sea and some amazing visual effects on land. From a purely aesthetic standpoint, it’s a serious success.

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Spider-Man also features great visuals. The animated film shows clear evidence of careful consideration by the filmmakers in terms of character design, settings, action sequences, etc. It takes full advantage of the freedom animation allows, and knocks it out of the park. I really enjoyed the frequent (but not overwhelming) integration of stylistic elements straight out of comic books.

Plot

So Aquaman contains an origin story, a hero’s journey, one major villain (and a moderate level bad guy), and some exploration of the fish out of water problem (pun intended).

Into the Spiderverse contains the origin story of a new superhero, issues with family dynamics and growing up, a multi-dimensional threat, three major villains (and a few supporting bad guys), and seven incarnations of Spider-Man.

Given that, it’s really telling that Aquaman manages to feel more convoluted and harder to follow. The issue is that while Spider-Man is carefully paced, controls the flow of information, and makes sure the audience sees situations developing, Aquaman jumps from scene to scene and from action beat to action beat, relying on awkward exposition monologues to fill in the gaps. If your attention wanders for half a second during one of these explanatory moments, be prepared to be confused in an upcoming scene.

Character Development

Speaking of awkward exposition monologues…they also served as the bulk of the “characterization” in Aquaman. Characters told us why they were doing (or had done, previously, off-screen) certain things, but rarely was a decision, motivation, etc. really explored. Instead, there was a lot more dialogue. And most of the dialogue was really, really awkward.

Spider-Man, on the other hand, had great characters, especially Miles Morales, who really shines as the protagonist. The characters made sense and were easy to relate to, and I felt invested in their goals and struggles.

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Let’s Wrap This Up

I had a few more thoughts in mind, but I really don’t want to belabor the point. Although Aquaman looked great, I felt the script was overstuffed and underdeveloped, and after a while I honestly got bored.

Spider-Man: Into the Spiderverse was a definite win for me (a comic book geek), and my best friend (who’s a casual fan of the movies) also thought it was great. If you’re heading to the movies any time soon, my advice is to choose the webs over the water.

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Agree? Disagree? Have your own movie recommendations? Just want to say hi? Leave a comment below.

Perserverance

Some people keep their goofy, silly, ridiculous behavior to themselves. That’s a perfectly valid life strategy…but I am not that person. When I experience what I call a “sitcom moment” (often self-inflicted), my first instinct is to share it. I think it’s important to be able to laugh at myself, and I’m happy to invite others to join me.

So…about getting my presents wrapped.

The Plan

On Wednesday evening, I posted about my plans for my vacation days, and then decided it was time to deal with the fact that my living room was starting to look like an Amazon warehouse.

I should mention that I’m not a huge fan of wrapping presents the traditional way, so I’m a gift bag and tissue paper kind of girl. Quick, easy, and festive.

So I turned on The Man Who Invented Christmas and started opening boxes.

The First Snag

When I had everything unboxed and organized, I paused the movie and went to get my huge collection of Christmas bags out of the guest room closet…

…and they weren’t there. Everything else was there: birthday bags, tissue paper, gift labels, actual wrapping paper, etc. The Christmas bags, however, were nowhere to be found.

After a few minutes staring blankly into my box of supplies in hopes that they would suddenly materialize, I summoned a vague memory of telling myself last year that I needed to hit the after Christmas sales because I had finally run out of bags.

Oops.

The First Solution

Easy enough. I had four rolls of wrapping paper, and I reminded myself that I am a grown woman who is perfectly capable of traditional wrapping, even though it isn’t my preference. So I set up a folding table in front of the couch, assembled my materials, made a cup of tea, and turned the movie back on.

The Second Snag

That’s when I realized I hadn’t gotten the scissors. And that was the point where things really started to veer into sitcom territory.

You know how there’s the one thing that you’re always losing? The thing you can’t seem to remember to put back in its proper place, so you’re constantly trying to remember where you left it?

For me, that thing is my scissors. Almost every single day, I need them for something, and so I have to hunt for them. Sometimes they’re in the living room, sometimes they’re in the kitchen, sometimes they’re in the guest room, or my bedroom, or the basement…you get the idea. I might find them in a drawer, or under a stack of mail, or on top of the DVD player. Every once in a while, they’re actually on my desk in my home office, which is where they should be. That happens so rarely that it’s usually the last place I look. Then I take them into the room where I need them, use them, put them down somewhere, and promptly forget where they are.

Anyway, I paused the movie again and went on the hunt. Typically, it takes me about five minutes to find them. Occasionally ten.

Wednesday night, however, I spent half an hour searching with zero success. That’s when I said to myself, “Amanda, you could have gone to Walgreens and bought another pair of scissors by now.”

The Second Solution

Walgreens always has my back. When I arrived at the store and went to the appropriate aisle, not only did they have quality scissors, but they were on saleThat’s when I had a moment of clarity. Inspiration. Genius. If I have a pair of scissors in every room in the house, I’ll never have to search more than one room.

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It’s an example of what one of my friends calls “Perfect Amanda Logic”. (If you’re laughing at me by now, I’m with you.) At any rate, I bought six pairs of scissors. Problem solved.

Back home, I made more tea, turned the movie back on, and got to work. Soon I had about a dozen adequately wrapped presents and was feeling pretty pleased with myself…

The Third Snag

…until I realized that I had forgotten to label them as I went and had no idea what was in most of them. I was certain about three, but the others…

The Third Solution

You probably know where this is going. I unwrapped the rest of the gifts, trying (and mostly failing) not to tear the paper so I could reuse it, and wrote out labels for everything. No worries.

The Fourth Snag

By the time I was finished unwrapping and labeling, I discovered that I had somehow managed to misplace my new “living room” scissors. (I’m starting to think there’s some kind of paranormal force at work here.) So I congratulated myself on my forethought, got the dining room scissors (You see how my brilliant long term solution is already breaking down?), and got back to work.

Then, of course, I ran out of tape.

The Fourth Solution

Back to Walgreens! Ignore the puzzled look from the employee who had already given me a puzzled look when I bought all the scissors! Find tape! Grab tape (get extra)! Head for the counter, through the aisle of…

…Christmas bags. Lots and lots of Christmas bags. That I could have just bought the first time.

Cue a laughing fit in the middle of the store.

The Outcome

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The presents are ready, The Man Who Invented Christmas was a great movie, and I have enough bags for next year.

The living room scissors have yet to materialize, but I did find the original lost pair this morning.

Roll credits.

(December 2019 Update: I am down to two pairs of scissors. I have no idea what happened to all the others.)

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Join me in the comments to share your own sitcom moments and ridiculous behavior…or just make fun of mine. 🙂

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So here’s another off-schedule post, because today was my last work day until after Christmas. Yay! The past few weeks have been seriously busy, and I’m super excited about having some time to take care of “non-business business” (aka “stuff I want to do”). Here’s what’s currently on my agenda:

  • Drink coffee on the patio, even though I’ll probably have to bundle up.
  • Keep implementing my favorite acts of kindness.
  • Catch up on my reading. I have five books waiting.
  • Host one more low stress holiday event (see this post for tips on the “low stress” part).
  • Watch The Man Who Invented Christmas, which hit my “must watch” list after I read Charles French’s recommendation.
  • Spend a day with my best girlfriend, and do at least one thing we haven’t tried before (an annual tradition).
  • Go to the movies.
  • Get ahead of the game on content creation for my Instagram.
  • Spend time with my family.
  • Organize my thoughts and plans for this blog.
  • Go out to dinner.
  • Finish my semi-annual house decluttering.
  • Bake a cake.

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What’s on your agenda for the next week or so? Any suggestions for things I should do with my days off? Let me know in the comments!

 

So if you read my post on holiday music a few weeks back, you already know that I have a weakness for the offbeat and eclectic. So it probably won’t surprise you that my holiday viewing ranges from feel good traditional to tinsel-lit slasher, with a few other genres in between. Believe me, whatever you’re feeling right now, there’s a Christmas themed (or at least a Christmas timed) movie that fits the bill.

Here are a few to consider:

My Top Pick: The Muppet Christmas Carol (1992)

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I love the Muppets. Period. I am a grown woman who cheerfully, unabashedly, proudly adores all things Muppet. Add that to a classic story like A Christmas Carol, and you have a recipe for my all-time favorite Christmas movie. Kermit and Piggy are great as Bob and Emily Cratchit, Gonzo (with Rizzo in tow) narrates as Charles Dickens, and Michael Caine owns the role of Ebeneezer Scrooge. The soundtrack is everything you expect from a great Muppet movie, including “It Feels Like Christmas”, which I think is one of the best Christmas songs ever (check it out here).

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I tried to choose a single Christmas comedy, but there are just so many. I finally narrowed it down to:

Elf (2003)

It practically goes without saying that this story of a North Pole native who brings the Christmas spirit to the big city is a must watch. It’s chock full of comedy and good feelings, with great performances from Will Farrell, James Caan, and Zooey Deschanel (a personal fave).

The Santa Clause (1994)

In another great “fish out of water” story, Scott, played by Tim Allen, suddenly (and reluctantly) becomes the new Santa Claus. There are a lot of great moments in this film, with the elf rescue being one of the standouts. I honestly wasn’t a big fan of the sequels, but the original is a lot of fun.

A Christmas Story (1983)

Peter Billingsly (who works behind the scenes as a producer these days) will forever be best known as Ralphie, whose quest for a Red Ryder BB gun is framed by a crazy family, a pair of bullies, a cynical Santa, and so much more. I’ve seen it dozens of times and it’s still hilarious. If you’ve seen it, see it again. If you haven’t, watch it. Watch it now.

Seriously.

Seasonal Slapstick: Ernest Saves Christmas (1988)

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Maybe I should have put this above with the other comedies, but it’s sort of in a class by itself. I never actually feel guilty about what some would call my “guilty pleasures”, so I’m going to own the fact that I really like the goofy, over the top, cringe-worthy Ernest movies. This is another case of passing the Santa torch, and Jim Varney’s Ernest becomes a bumbling facilitator trying to help the transition happen, before time runs out and Christmas is ruined. There’s a strong positive message woven through the gags and silliness, and I think the film is a whole lot of fun.

Action Movie Fan? Die Hard (1988)

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I refuse to engage in the debate over whether or not Die Hard is a Christmas movie. In my book, it counts. And it’s great. Bruce Willis versus Alan Rickman, a lone wolf taking on a small army, and the difficulties of heroic actions when you aren’t wearing shoes…do I need to say any more?

Wait, I do. “Now I have a machine gun. Ho-ho-ho.”

Ho-Ho-Horror: Gremlins (1984)

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Christmas is a crucial element of Gremlins, with an unfortunate gift serving as the catalyst for a classic creature invasion. When a mysterious (and adorable) little creature spawns a host of murderous, nightmare monsters, a small town is plunged into chaos and a few ordinary people have to save the day. The movie became a cultural touchstone, although I’m sure a lot of parents were taken aback by the fear and gore factors once things really got going. If you’re a scary movie fan, it’s definitely worth watching (or watching again).

Black Comedy/Slasher: Santa’s Slay (2005)

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Sometimes I’m in the mood for a good horror movie. Sometimes I’m in the mood for a bad horror movie. And once a year, I get together with a few slasher-film enthusiasts for a viewing of Santa’s Slay. Professional wrestler Bill Goldberg stars as Santa, who is anything but jolly. The film’s premise is that Santa has always been evil, but has been forced to do good for the last thousand years. Now that time is up, and Santa’s traded Christmas cheer for murder and mayhem. It’s definitely not for everyone, but it’s a real crowd-pleaser for the right kind of crowd.

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Whew! Once again there’s more in my head than I have time to put in the blog, so would you mind taking over for me? Add your personal favorites (traditional or otherwise) in the comments!

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I had a busy, somewhat stressful week. When that happens, I really become attuned to the kindness of others, because little things mean a lot more when I’m trying to keep my attitude in the positive zone. I also make a concentrated effort to spread kindness when I’m feeling stressed, because that usually helps me snap out of a bad mood. And since we’re in the holiday season, 12 feels like the right number of my favorite acts of kindness to share.

So if you’d like to try spreading some cheer, you can…

1. Buy someone a beverage

Inexpensive and super simple. Taking a trip to the vending machine? Grab an extra and give it away. Stopping at Starbucks on the way to work or class? Text a friend and see if you can get them something. I also like to occasionally pay for the car behind me in the drive thru, because everyone can use an unexpected kindness.

2. Give sincere compliments

Costs nothing, only takes a few seconds, and can make a big difference. When there’s a reason to recognize someone, do it.

3. Write a positive note

At work, I like to sneak Post Its on people’s desks with messages like, “You make working here awesome” or “Thanks for helping me out this morning”. I also keep a box of cards (Thank you, Congratulations, Good luck, etc.) on hand, so I’m always ready to celebrate or offer encouragement.

3. Bring food (with some extra thought)

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Giving someone a treat is always a win, and this time of year most of us are surrounded by goodies. At my job and in my circle, we’re really big on treat days and teaming up for meals (I talked a little about that in my holiday gathering post two weeks ago). And if you want to level up…

Bring a healthier option. A few years ago I noticed that I always saw people who never ate any of the cookies and whatnot because they were dieting, diabetic, had food allergies, etc. So I started looking for recipes (and bakeries, when I needed to save time) that could provide some treats that were healthier, but still yummy. It takes a little extra effort, but I love being able to bring something for everyone.

4. Give someone a break

Offer to babysit, run a few errands, help with a cleaning project, etc. This is really powerful, because not only are you making someone’s life a little easier, but you’re showing that you care about them.

5. Take time to listen

Yes, we’re all busy, but find the time to connect with others, and find out what’s going on in their lives. The gift of a friendly ear really is priceless.

6. Extend an invitation

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Let’s have lunch, want to join me to knock out some holiday shopping, how about getting coffee, want to see an movie…everyone likes to be invited. And on a related note…

7. Try someone else’s idea

Be open to letting someone else choose the restaurant, activity, etc., and then go with a positive attitude. Even if it turns out not to be your thing, they’ll appreciate that you gave it your best shot.

8. Give someone a gift (even a small one)

My two favorite types of small gifts are the things people don’t think to buy themselves (like fun versions of everyday items, or mini luxuries), and the things someone always needs (one of my friends at work regularly gives me colored Post Its, because I’m always running out). A few dollars is enough to say “I’m thinking of you”.

9. Give a group a gift

Group gifts are great because they increase the number of people benefiting, and sometimes create shared time and connections. A new game or activity can be great for a family, because everyone can enjoy it. At work, a shared gift can have a huge impact on the overall environment. Every once in a while one of my coworkers brings a bunch of flavored creamer for the coffee room, and everyone has a better morning. And you can imagine the excitement when a few of us went in together to upgrade the coffee machine.

10. Clean up (even if it isn’t your mess)

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If you make a mess, you should clean it up. We all know that…except that we also know that not everyone practices it. If you have the extra minute (and most of the time we do), clear off a table in the break room, rinse the dishes in the sink, return a shopping cart to the cart corral, etc. You’ll definitely be making someone else’s day a little bit easier.

11. Introduce yourself and/or have a conversation

Do you have a neighbor you wave to but have barely spoken to? A coworker you pass in the hall but couldn’t put a name to to save your life? A parent you see everyday waiting near you in the school pick up area? Take the time for a meet and greet.

12. Smile!

It’s good for you and the people you smile at. Don’t just take my word for it-click here to check out some science. 

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What are your favorite ways to spread kindness? Let me know in the comments!

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