So since I’m now past the Important Annual Event at work (more on that later), I figured that today I would come home and write another sitcom parody post like I did at the end of March, but unfortunately my planned writing time this evening has been severely curtailed (more on that later, too). So this is going to be a more straightforward wrap-up of a very busy and very productive month.
I need that by Monday, ok?
The first few days of April were fairly straightforward, but Thursday and Friday I was attacked by PIMOs. PIMO is an acronym I made up that stands for “Person I Must Obey”. This includes my boss, my boss’s boss (and so on up the line), people on my boss’s level that don’t technically supervise me but still get to tell me what to do, people on my level who are leading teams or projects I’m involved in, and so on. Sometimes things at work can be pretty fluid, and the various PIMOs don’t always check with each other before assigning lots of different things to the same person. So over the course of two days, in addition to my regular work, three different PIMOs told me they needed:
- A plan to coordinate several hundred people for an upcoming event
- An abstract and outline for a presentation I didn’t know I was giving
- A list of materials and resources to order for new training in a few months
This, by the way, was the inspiration for my posts on productivity. If you missed those, part one is here and part two is here. I got it all finished, but it was one busy weekend.
It’ll be ok. I promise.
The next week, we got the news that there’s going to be some restructuring at work. This happens periodically, and it often creates a lot of drama. I’ve been through this multiple times, and for me it’s covered the entire spectrum. Once it was really bad for me, once it was really good for me, and the rest of the time it’s had its pros and cons. This time, I’m not going to be affected all that much, but some people are looking at serious changes in their job description.
And some of them completely freaked out.
There was some yelling, there were some tears, and I spent a lot of time listening, consoling, and offering advice when it was appropriate (that was the driving force behind this post). Things have calmed down by now, but it was an interesting couple of days.
I can do anything.
A lot of the last few weeks have been taken up by an Important Annual Event (I always hear the capitals in my head). To make a long (and boring) story short, it’s the biggest thing I am involved in every year, and for…five years, I think, I’ve been the number two person when it comes to organizing and running the event (working with a PIMO who is not my direct supervisor but is on the same level), and acting as a PIMO to people who normally don’t have to do what I tell them to (and some of whom still act like they don’t…but let’s just move on).
In the weeks leading up to the event, there are schedules to be made, materials to purchase and organize, questions to be answered, egos to manage, complaints to resolve, problems to solve, and meetings, meetings, and more meetings. There are also a LOT of emails.
The day before (this past Sunday) I was at work setting up the event space (this is why I didn’t get to see Endgame, as I explained in this post) and running around like crazy. Then on Monday and Tuesday I was at work at 6 am and didn’t stop moving until I got home in the evening. It was busy, it was stressful, it was physically and mentally taxing, and I can’t figure out why people kept emailing me when they knew darn well I wasn’t checking my email all day. I also ate a lot of donuts (for more on my donut obsession, see March in Review).
The important thing, though, is that we pulled it off. I’m proud of my team, I’m proud of myself, and I’m really glad it’s over for another year.
In other news…
I had a great Easter with my family, and I got to see a play with my mom, sister, and nieces, and that was a lot of fun.
In my last month in review post I forgot to mention that I read 20 books in March, and I managed to get through 21 in April (one isn’t pictured), mostly burning my way through a couple of series. Some of them I’ve noted to review in future posts…at some point. I’m mostly on track to meet my 2019 reading goal.

So how is May so far?
Well, I went into work today ready to bask in the glow of this week’s accomplishments, but by the end of the day I’d heard from two PIMOs who need some things from me…by Friday. Lol. I’ve decided to get at least one of those knocked out this evening, which is why more episodes of my own personal sitcom will have to wait until next month.

How was your April?
Me: Hey, how excited are you? I’m super excited. What time do you want to pick me up? Do you want to have lunch first? Dinner after? Both? Wait-do you want to come over this morning and watch Infinity War before we go?
Mike and I aren’t sure which one of us made the mistake. It is entirely possible that I told him Saturday, but he got mixed up and ordered tickets for the wrong day. It is also entirely possible that he said, “So I’m getting tickets for Sunday, right?” and I said misheard him and agreed. Regardless, even if we could remember whose fault it was, it really wouldn’t matter. It doesn’t change the situation. When things don’t go our way, it’s really tempting to point a finger and find a target for your frustration, but in the long run that doesn’t really help anything. All that does is add a nice heaping spoonful of resentment to your already overflowing bowl of disappointment, and sour your mood even further.
This particular disappointment, in the grand scheme of things, is really not that big of a deal. Sure, I was looking forward to Endgame. And yes, it stinks that I’m not going to be able to see it until Friday. However, I’ll be okay. Even more serious disappointments often don’t have as big of a long-term impact as we feel in the moment. We need to stop and think about how much this really matters, if it’s fixable, if there’s an alternative, if we’ll still consider it a big deal a month from now, etc. That last one helps me a lot, because I can always remember something that felt huge a few weeks back, but now I can see wasn’t all that serious.
When something doesn’t work out for me, I always take a few minutes to play the “Yes, but..” game. “Yes, I’m disappointed I didn’t get that new position, but I still like the job I have.” “Yes, I’m upset that I have to get a new transmission, but at least it won’t put me in an impossible financial position.” “Yes, I’m bummed about missing this movie, but waiting a week won’t kill me.”
The worst thing I could have done was sit around the house and waste my free day moping about my plans getting ruined. When things go wrong, it’s ok to take a little time to vent and/or process your feelings, but it’s better to distract yourself than to wallow. So Mike and I went to see Captain Marvel again. Then we had sushi. Then I went home and read a book, and spent an hour catching up with my sister. Then I went to bed early so I could get a little extra rest before things get crazy again.
So the other day I happened to mention to a friend I had been feeling very tired this week. She responded by saying “You know what you should do?” and then proceeded to answer her own question. At length. She suggested changes to my diet, daily routine, use of essential oils, and shoes. Essentially, she told me that the answer to my temporary state of fatigue was to do everything just like she does. While I appreciated the desire to help, I walked away from the conversation feeling more like a toddler who hadn’t quite mastered the complexities of…functioning.
If you’re thinking of offering advice unasked you need to stop and honestly assess your own mindset. Is your advice coming from a place of concern? Are you really worried about how the other person is doing and/or earnestly thinking about their best interest? In general, I avoid completely unsolicited advice, except in cases where I feel that someone is legitimately harming themselves. For example, I have spoken to friends about their drinking, drug use, and unhealthy relationships because in those instances I have felt that not saying something would be bad friendship. Outside of those instances, however, I’m very careful about making suggestions without being asked. 
So if someone genuinely wants your opinion you should definitely offer it, but you still need to think through how you’re doing that. It’s very easy to blur the line between advice and criticism. Advice focuses on “here’s how you can solve a problem or do something better”. When you start to veer into the territory of “here’s what you’re doing wrong”, you need to tread very carefully. Criticizing is the easiest way to get someone to shut down, ignore your suggestions, and feel negative towards you.
You also want to avoid trying to deal with too many things at once. It will overwhelm the other person and make them less likely to try anything you’re suggesting. In general, it’s always best to suggest just two or three steps someone can take, because that seems manageable and is much more likely to lead to follow through. In my first management position, I made the mistake of giving an employee a list of ten actions and improvement items in one performance review. It completely paralyzed her, convinced her that her job was in jeopardy, and caused her to make absolutely no changes. My supervisor pointed out where I had gone wrong, and when I cut that list down to three current priorities (and apologized for freaking her out) there was progress. Eventually, we got through all ten.
Last week, I focused on timing and work space.
Be aware of the things that have to be accomplished in a certain time frame, and what could wait if you start to run out of time, energy, or focus. Having clear priorities in mind is the best way to start being productive. Some people swear by a “most important things first” model, but I don’t think that works for everyone. Obviously, if you’re down to the wire on something it needs to go to the top of the list, but as long as you don’t forget about the top priorities, I think it’s perfectly fine to do something else first, if other factors make that a good strategy for you. I mentioned last week that I think best first thing in the morning, so I often move something that’s high in importance to first thing tomorrow, instead of last thing today.
Estimating how long each task will take will help organize your entire day (or however long you’re devoting to this work session). If it’s 8:30 and you have a meeting at 9, it might not be the best time to start on something that you think is going to take two hours. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the length of the list, doing a series of short tasks first will help you cross items off and start replacing stress with satisfaction. If you have a relatively large block of available time, pencil in a complicated item.
I can’t possibly emphasize this one enough. Your brain can’t run on full throttle indefinitely. Take a few minutes to really think about, well, how much you’re going to have to think, and be ready to mentally downshift so you can recharge after a brain busting task. For example, at work I spend a lot of mental energy planning content for presentations, but once the content is set, it’s easy to create my slideshows and handouts, so that part of the process is my mental cool down. When I work at home, a chunk of heavy thinking is usually followed by a household task, like doing the dishes.




I work at home a fair amount, and I tried following the predominant advice on the subject. I have a home office. It’s very professional. It’s exactly the type of environment that most experts suggest. I actually chose furniture and layout based on extensive research…
This episode would kick off with one of those insomnia montages. You know what I’m talking about: tossing and turning, the clock showing midnight, then one am, then two am, etc. For the first few days of the week, I couldn’t fall asleep, and then couldn’t stay asleep. I think I was getting about four or five hours a night in two or three chunks. The first day wasn’t so bad. I fueled up on coffee and stayed busy, and pretty much managed to shove the fatigue into a corner. On day two, I was a little ragged, and a few coworkers commented that I was getting a little wild eyed. By the end of the day, I was running slightly manic, with powerful sleepiness lurking below the surface. I went to bed super early that night, sure that I was going to sleep ten or twelve hours.
Not so much. The morning of day three, I drank WAY too much coffee, and started to feel like my body was vibrating. In the morning, I got obsessed with solving a word puzzle (something my brain was definitely not functioning well enough to handle), mentally (and occasionally audibly) chanted “I can do it, I can do anything” at least once an hour, and treated a colleague to a very long monologue on why I think Orange Vanilla Coke is a truly bad idea. (Cue the laugh track.)
I don’t like math. I generally don’t mind basic calculation, although it isn’t my favorite, but Geometry always gave me a headache, Algebra is truly incomprehensible, and I have a theory that Trigonometry is only understandable to wizards. (If that’s the case, I am willing to give up on my dream of someday discovering that I’m a wizard.)






Host: Amanda, what are you going to make for this challenge?
Host: So what’s the next step?













Also, when we cut it (on the more stable side) it didn’t look half bad. And everyone agreed that it tasted awesome.


Wonder is an incredibly powerful story. Every character feels completely authentic, and the reader is completely drawn into the struggles, setbacks, and triumphs that Auggie, his family, and his friends experience. The rotating perspectives continuously add new layers to the story, and the book is far more sophisticated than your average elementary level book. That achievement is worth mentioning again, because it’s such a rare thing. My eight year old niece read, understood, and loved this book, and so did I, and my sister, and my mother.
I’m always nervous when a book is adapted to film. The vast majority of the time, I’m disappointed, and frequently I’m downright furious. Sometimes, though, the movie gets it right, capturing the essence of the book, adding new dimensions, and making intelligent choices regarding what elements will and won’t translate effectively.

